A very thought provoking program that I saw a week back compelled me to write this, I tried to avoid it like all of us who have seen , witnessed or heard about this. I tried all week not to write about it but couldn’t help it, so here I am. This article would be discussing my self explanation about why people can commit such a heinous crime, killing a girl while she is in the womb. Yes the committing of the female feticide. A practice we all know is around us, a practice misused by our doctors to earn an extra buck, the practice advised by women who themselves claim to be mothers, and finally supported and financed by men who are actually responsible for that girl in the first place. I tried a lot to think about an excuse valid enough to overlook this crime. And after racking my brains for a whole week I could not convince myself that there is one reason that can come close to even validating this idea that can come into a fathers mind or a mother’s mind or a grandmother’s mind or even the whole society’s mind.

How and why a woman who is a mother of a daughter does not want her daughter in law to be a mother of girl, and this feeling is so powerful that she is willing to kill her own blood. What pain the mother would have to go through to let that happen, and I think every mother who came to know that she would be forced to do this would retaliate with all she has and all she could. I thought that why did people even think about doing this, and I read about how this practice has been in this world since ages, with Greeks and Arabs and other races doing this but my questions stays; why?

The answer that came from the men and their mothers was that they want someone to forward their race and another popular one was that we cannot afford the dowry and raising a daughter.

Well is forwarding your race that important to you, I mean who are you seriously, just an ordinary person or family whom nobody knows apart from a few ORDINARY people just like you. People more worthy and more deserving than you, families more powerful and influential than you have gone from this world without a single trace of their existence left in this world. It is up to Allah to keep a name alive or make a family non-existent from this world. And trust me His criteria of judgment do not include how many sons or daughters you have. Please you are not a dinosaur that you would go extinct. If you are worthy of being remembered you will be. It amazes me that we call ourselves Muslims when we practice what Islam shuns. After the spread of Islam one of the most important orders given by Allah was that girls will not be buried alive. And now we who boast ourselves to be the worshipers of this amazing religion defy its orders and do what kuffar did before Islam. And the worst part is that we are justifying it and taking it in our stride. How can we why should we? Have we all forgotten that our prophet (pbuh) did not have any son; he only had a daughter whom he loved and respected. Whom we give the highest regard. Did our prophet need a son to keep his name alive? No. Okay you might not want to compare a divine soul with your unworthy self so I can quote some more human and ordinary example, does Quaid-e-azam needed a son to keep his name alive?  Is he less respected in history just because he had a daughter. We have been under the rule of a queen for 200 years and Britain is still ruled by a queen, did her family name vanished from the face of earth because her father didn’t have a son? No, in fact these people are more respected and known than you or me. I can quote hundreds of examples about people who are famous not because the sex of their children but because of whom they were and what they did in this world. So being a nobody we should not worry about our race being forwarded or not. History will tell you that races have been wiped from the face of the earth by Allah not because they had daughters or sons but because they did what we are doing in our society, killing beings that can’t defend themselves. Being a Muslim I know that it is my duty to protect and fend for those who are in capable of doing that for themselves, this is what jihad is.

As for the matter of dowry, please that is the lamest justification one can think of to commit something so big a crime. Instead of killing girls, kill this practice. We won’t mend our ways but find paths that help us. I don’t know who we should educate? The men; that it is their fault if a girl is born as their chromosome determines the sex of a child, or the women; that please just because you are a mother of a son does not give you the right to take away a child from another woman whether you like or despise your daughter in law but please remember what you are killing is you kin, your own son’s daughter. Just think if your daughter in law’s father would have killed his daughter would your son have been able to get a child of his own. Just think if all men start killing daughters than how would they forward their race without women. Think the kind of mental degradation we are enforcing on the women in our society. The kind of mental pressure and stress we are introducing in our society. Remember a stressed mother will give birth to a stressed and mentally disturbed society. We need to put our faith in Allah not just in words but practically in our actions to become Islamic republic if we don’t and continue doing wrong then we are just another race who will be vanished from the face of earth no matter how many sons we have.